Is there anyone out there who feels a complete lack of support from family members as they pursue fertility treatments? I can’t be the only one. Here’s a perfect example of how my mother doesn’t support me at all.
Last night I called my parents’ house for my weekly check-in. First question that my mom asks, “Are you and E coming to the beach the week of August 19th?”. I’ve known for a few days now that my transfer for FET will be on August 21, so obviously, the answer is no. I proceed to tell her that we won’t be able to make it and completely open up about the reason why. I told her that our April IVF was unsuccessful and that we would be attempting another transfer in August.
After explaining all of this to her, she proceeds to try and guilt-trip me into coming (even though there’s no way possible to make it up to the beach with my treatment schedule). After the guilt is laid on, she says, “Oh did you hear that A (my younger cousin) had her baby not too long ago?” I thought to myself, “Why the eff would I want to hear about my much younger cousin having her first child when I just got done telling you that my IVF cycle failed?”
At that point, I had to lie and said that I had to go. I was furious.
So just when I think this beach situation is all said and done, I get a voicemail from my mom this morning stating that I was being selfish for not making time to go to the beach and that my dad’s feelings were really hurt. If my dad’s feelings were hurt, why wasn’t he the one calling? I think that statement is a load of BS.
If you thought I was furious last night, I was so angry this morning that I was literally shaking. I had to hold myself back from calling her and totally flipping out on her. Instead, I opted to send an email. Here is what I wrote: